Nothing is worse than the stress of trying to get over your ex after a bad break up. You stress out, reminisce about the good times, and then remember the bad times. Moving on is a very nerve-wracking process for both guys and girls. Although time heals all, here are a few ways that may help speed up the process.
1. Be sad — for a little while!
Most people don’t want to give the other person the advantage of knowing that they are sad. Sometimes they don’t even want to admit it to themselves. Let me tell you that it is perfectly okay to be sad! It is actually a good thing. We are all human beings with thoughts and feelings. Admitting to ourselves that we are sad is the first step in recovering. Just tell yourself, “I’m going to be sad right now, but I’m not going to let this break me. Tomorrow I will feel - and be - better.”
2. Delete the pictures
Looking at pictures from the happy moments in the relationship can bring back some good memories. But don’t let this divert you from the reason you are where you are now. Deleting pictures can be one the hardest things to do after a break up, but it will make moving on easier. If it helps, close your eyes and press that delete button. I promise you will feel better!
3. Remember the bad times
One of the most important things you can do to help you get over your ex is to remember the bad times. Focus on the problems, arguments, and things that frustrated you. If you keep these things in perspective, getting over your ex will be a lot easier.
4. Unfriend them!
Imagine: feeling a lot better after your breakup, you’re scrolling down your Instagram timeline when all of the sudden, you see a selfie from your ex. Then all the sad and angry feelings start coming back. The solution? Just remove them from your social media. Some people may think this is petty, but after you break up with someone, you don’t want to see their face popping up everywhere!
5. Stay busy
Keeping your mind focused on other things means you won’t be thinking about your ex. Sounds good, right? Try working out, reading, crafting, or going out with your friends. In no time, the thought of the breakup will obviously still be there, but you will no longer have as strong of an emotional connection.
6. Take advantage of your freedom
So, you’ve had a bad break up. Don’t fill the empty space in your heart with food. You’re a single person now, so have fun! You are free from the rules of a committed relationship. Go out with your friends, flirt a little, and maybe give someone your number.
7. Forget about the belongings you left
You will not be able to get over your ex if you allow yourself to see them. You don’t want to contact them for any reason. The best thing to do is forget about the few belongings you may have left at their place, and focus on what’s more important — moving on.
8. Pamper yourself
Making yourself feel good is also important and helpful. You should never blame yourself for a breakup. Two people make a relationship, not just one. So for girls, go to a spa; get your nails and hair done. For guys, you could also go to a spa or hit the gym for a while.
9. Talk to friends or family
Sometimes talking out the situation to others can help you feel better, as well. Listening to their opinion can assure you that you’ll get through it. You have your whole life ahead of you, so don’t worry!
Hopefully these tips work. Just don’t go lashing out on your ex’s property. You’ll get through it! Have hope, stay calm, and take it one day at a time.
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