Maybe you two are high school sweethearts trying long-distance, or new lovebirds who just met at your new school. Either way, your former crush has turned into an exclusive significant other, and you’re thinking about the future. You wonder: is our relationship really built to last? How can you know if you two are in it for the long haul? If you start noticing these things, it’s definitely a good sign:
1. You still feel all warm and fuzzy inside when you see them.
Even though you see them after every class, you still can’t wait until you see them again — and as soon as you do, a big smile wipes across your face. You’re happy together, even when you’re having a bad day. You’d probably even rather be with them when they’re upset, than be with a much happier (but not as awesome) classmate.
2. You’ve planned the future together — even if that future is just lunch tomorrow, Spring Break, or next semester.
Planning ahead means you plan to still be together sometime in the future. It doesn’t have to be ten years from now, but looking to a few weekends away is always a telltale sign that you’ll at least last until then.
3. You feel like you’ve known them for much longer than you actually have.
Perhaps you opened up to them a lot sooner than you typically would. Maybe you were willing to go “all the way” with them, when you never have before. There’s a reason you did these things; you feel very comfortable with your sweetheart. If you have these feelings, go with your gut: your comfort is probably there because they feel the same way about you.
4. You tell them all your secrets, and they keep them — from everyone.
They’re like a best friend that you can make out with. The more personal stuff you can tell them, the more you know that things are going to last, because trust is one of the most vital traits for a couple.
5. You can imagine yourself still loving them, even if/when they get older, fatter, more forgetful, etc.
You already accept their flaws, and you’re willing to accept more as they arise. You love them for who they are and who they will be — which is especially important as you two grow together throughout your college years.
6. Something about you two just feels right.
This is oftentimes the most important aspect of a relationship. Your instincts know when the situation is a good one, so listen to them. If you feel like you’re going to last, you may possibly be right. Trust yourself, and trust your significant other, to know what’s best for both of you.
A lot of times in college, people look straight to their first hook-up when asked about “soul mates” or marriage — but it’s important to be honest with yourself. If something just doesn’t feel right, then maybe it isn’t meant to be. But if your relationship meets most, or all, of the criteria on this list, you’re probably good for gold to be that couple — at least for the next few semesters.
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