For some college students, long-term relationships can be daunting. The thought of remaining with only one person for the rest of your life is nerve-wracking and stressful. How could anyone know, in college, who they want to be with forever?
For me, the answer to that question is simple.
I was lucky enough to find my soul mate in high school, though we were friends long before that, and it just makes sense for us to get married young. Many have been skeptical of our choice to pursue this path for our relationship, but we have several reasons for making this decision.
If you and your future fiancé are considering marrying young, consider these points (that worked for me and my boyfriend) to ensure you’re making the right decision for you and your relationship:
1. We’ve known each other (and been in a relationship) for years, and we are sure we are compatible.
I’ve known my significant other for years, and we’ve been in a relationship for almost two. We grew up together; we knew each other during our awkward stages and helped each other through the hard times. We have endured lengthy arguments and separations where our trust was tested. Through all of this experience with each other, we found out in what ways we feel similar, and worked through our differences. Because of this, we know we are compatible, and can work through any issues that arise in the future.
2. Marriage at a young age isn’t that unusual in history.
Marrying in your early twenties has been commonplace since the twentieth century, even for non-monarchs. In fact, my parents and grandparents married young (even younger than I will), and their relationships have lasted for decades. There are numerous instances of historical marriages that have stood the test of time, even with an early wedding, so making it work is surely possible.
3. It can be beneficial financially.
Being married means that your employer will extend your benefits, like health insurance, to your spouse. This practice is especially prevalent in the military, where young marriages are especially common. In this case, marrying young isn’t just for love, it can be a financial asset!
They say that when you get married to someone, you’re also marrying their family. Lucky for us, we both have been accepted into each other’s families with open arms. This will make things a lot easier down the road, with wedding planning and beyond.
5. We have planned extensively for the transition.
Being married means leaving home — which is a big transition. We have prepared for this by researching rental prices in our area and coordinating our life plans. Additionally, part of moving out of your parents’ house is financial independence. With a clear plan for our financial future, we know that moving in together will go smoothly.
6. I know that my current S.O. will be the only one I want to be with forever.
I’ve heard that you “just know” when you’ve met your soul mate, and I think that’s true. There is no doubt in my mind that my boyfriend is my soul mate; if I wasn’t sure, there’s no way I would consider marrying him. We want the same things, and have similar goals and morals; things that will keep us together even if the passion ever dwindles.
Being married young will likely spark skepticism from loved ones, but whether you find your soul mate in high school, college, or beyond, you and your significant other should do what you feel is right for you and your relationship. You’ll know when it’s the right time for you — just follow your heart and it will lead you in the right direction.